On behalf of The Marks Law Firm, L.L.C. posted in Divorce on Saturday, November 19, 2011
Maintaining a good relationship can be very hard work. When arguments arise, sometimes communication skills break down. This can happen all the time when a couple is going through a divorce. Disagreements can be effective, though, and can bring both parties to amicable solutions. Utilizing some of the techniques below can be extremely helpful in a difficult situation.
For starters, it is important to admit when you are just not invested in a particular detail rather than argue about it just to argue. If something is just not worth the fight, it may be best to disengage from a particular situation. In order words, pick your battles.
Alternatively, if a particular point is of utmost importance, passion can sometimes outweigh objectivity. In these situations, it could be very helpful to seek the help of a mediator or other outside advisor to gain some perspective on the issue. Experienced family law attorneys are very good at being your calm, knowledgeable advocate.
If both parties are willing to listen, communication can go very smoothly. By speaking in neutral tones, sticking to facts and staying calm a person can effectively get his or her point across. It also decreases the chances that the words will be twisted or taken out of context.
Finally, it never hurts to have an open mind. Listening to the other party could very well give new insight or perspective on an issue. It may also pave the way for compromise.
Divorce is a difficult process that can involve serious emotional and financial risks. By practicing these techniques in disagreements, an amicable solution becomes that much easier to achieve.
Source: USA Today, “How to agree to disagree agreeably,” Molly Lyons, Oct. 25, 2011